If you're the one reading this — not him.
That's more common than you'd think. Most men don't go looking for this on their own. Someone who loves them sends it.
He won't be shamed here
This isn't a place that tells him he's broken, or reduces what he's built to a character flaw. He'll be met with the same respect he'd get from a peer.
Not a replacement for your own therapy
If you have your own therapist, this doesn't compete with that relationship or complicate it. My work is with him — and later, if it's right, with the two of you together. What happens in your own therapy stays exactly where it is.
You don't have to sell him
Send it, and let it do the work. Men in this position respond better to something that speaks to them directly than to another conversation that feels like an ultimatum.
Send him this way.